Quick Book Review: Let’s Pretend This Never Happened

Let's Pretend This Never HappenedLet’s Pretend This Never Happened by Jenny Lawson

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

Loved this book! Parts of it reminded me of my own childhood (I know!), and I laughed out loud all the way through it (unsuccessfully trying to explain the funny parts to my husband, who really had no chance because I would have had to explain entirely too much detail in order for him to get why it made me laugh, so basically he just needs to read it himself). Funny not just because it’s humorous, but because it’s so true.

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Who should read this book? This book is for mature/adult readers who are not easily offended. Not appropriate for children.

Bottom Line: Made me laugh. Highly recommended.

Using my voice for a change…

This past year has been a kind of political awakening for me. Don’t get me wrong: I’m a registered voter and have voted in every election for years — Oregon’s vote-by-mail system makes it ever so easy — but I’ve found myself less than enthused with the choice (really, lack thereof) of candidates and the feeling that my votes really don’t count for much. Other than voting and grumbling, I’ve been a passive observer to this thing we call government, but recent events like the Arab Spring, Occupy Wall Street*, and the recession have changed my outlook and have ignited a need to participate and raise my voice in the call for change — not just regular change, but disruptive, innovative change that can only come when you reinvent the rules and the playing field, and kick out the ones who are just punting back and forth while nothing ever really gets accomplished.

I’ve been formulating my own “platform” of sorts, that lists the general principles that I think this country needs to focus on, and joking to my husband Dan that I want to run for President but only if I could be the one to make all of the decisions and strategy, while my Vice President would take care of the public appearances and state dinners and figurehead-type duties. So, in keeping with my goal (see the About Me page) of not being afraid to state my actual true feelings in public, I want to start writing about how I think things could change for the better in this country.

Recently I’ve come across a website that I’ve been exploring, called Americans Elect, that seems to reflect a bunch of other people who think similarly to me (what a relief that there are others who have issues with the status quo. It would be even more awful if no one saw a problem!). I encourage you to check it out, if only to see how your views compare with the presidential candidates and with other Americans. You’ll answer a series of questions about topics from energy to immigration, from campaign finance to health care. Hey, it’s technology actually doing something to improve our government – what a concept! (I like online gaming as much as the next person, but when there are more of us playing Farmville than trying to be active in government and try to improve our situation, there is a real problem)

The Guardian of Forever from Star Trek

I’ll start sharing some of my views here, but for now suffice it to say that I’m for compassion, kindness, respect, responsibility, and doing the right thing.

Each one of us has a responsibility to become educated on the facts of the issues facing this country and to get active so our voices are heard by our elected officials. I’d really like to see some civil, informed debate on the issues than to hear sound bites and speeches that are phrased to appeal to the emotions of voters (and re-election). We need honest dialogue and the ability to be open-minded to ideas that may be different. Our issues are too complex to be wasting time playing games instead of solving problems and moving onto the next challenge.

Now I know what my dad meant when he said he would only be president if he could be a benevolent dictator. Get out of my way and let me make the decisions so we can get through our stack of problems — then we can move on and focus on building the next great generation.

*About Occupy Wall Street: I love the energy and determination of these folks, and they are indeed an inspiration. But I think we need to take action beyond just occupying places. We need to gather together, decide what we are in favor of, and get organized to elect like-minded people to office that we can trust to be honest, objective, and open-minded. My hat’s off to all of you OWSers, but we need to take it further.

 

To all the jobs I’ve loved, before

Tonight I was updating the “About Me” page on this site, listing the various jobs that I’ve had over the years, and was reciting the list to my surprised son who had never heard of most of them. It was an interesting trip down memory lane, because I haven’t thought about some of these jobs in a very long time. It made me proud of the variety of things I’ve been able to try out, and reminded me that each of these experiences helped make me the person I am today.

Yes, I drove a forklift at a pecan packing plant as a teenager. Yes, I drove the forklift right into a stack of boxes before I got the hang of it. That was a great summer job, especially since I basically created my own job opening. You see, my dad was the farm manager back then and had arranged for me to work on the conveyor belt picking branches and leaves out of the pecans that had been picked and were ready for processing.  I was supposed to see “Oscar” on my first day, and what I didn’t know (or didn’t hear my dad tell me) was that I needed to go behind the plant where the pecans were delivered, and that was where I would find my new boss.

So instead, I appeared in the plant office on my first day asking for Oscar, who was very puzzled because he had no idea what job I was talking about. Little did I know there were TWO OSCARS, and the one out back was expecting me (and probably wonders to this day why I never showed up) while the one inside the plant just must have figured “Oh, this is the boss’ daughter and I  had better find her something to do.” Thanks to Oscar, I learned to drive a forklift, got to pack pecans in boxes for distribution, and ended up with a more interesting job that summer than my dad had originally planned.

 

Dad's pecan farm - 2006

Dad's pecan farm - 2006

Another post so soon?


Putting a bird on my son

Portlandia fans: we put birds on things

 

I’m not calling this a trend until I’ve posted more than 15 times in this new year. We stopped by the sandwich shop for lunch today and took this photo of Charlie with his blue jay “Rocket”. We are fans of “Portlandia”, which happens to start its second season in a few days on the Independent Film Channel (IFC), so it was an opportune time to put a bird on it (him).

Happy New Year 2012!

Okay, I am back. One of my resolutions for the new year is to do less thinking about doing things and more just doing things. And way more writing.

Dan and I took Charlie to a “Mad Science” event for Cub Scouts recently, where we spent the afternoon in 5-6 sessions learning about the scientific method and how to apply it. Being in that kind of learning environment really energized us, and we started thinking about ways that we could help other kids learn about science. It would be great to try and get a similar afternoon session set up at Charlie’s school. I started wondering what it would be like to teach, and whether it would be as much fun if I weren’t just teaching my own son. I remember an old saying about doing the things that give you energy, and avoiding the things that use up your energy — and I can get fired up about tapping into kids’ natural curiosity and sharing my enthusiasm for the sciences, space, math, and just overall learning.

Real-time simulation of GRAIL-A and GRAIL-B orbiting the moon

Real-time simulation of GRAIL-A and GRAIL-B orbiting the moon

Speaking of space, did you know that there are two new satellites orbiting the moon as of today? GRAIL-A and GRAIL-B are due to be renamed soon — NASA gave kids the opportunity to name these twin spacecraft, and I’m hoping we’ll learn the new names in the coming weeks.

There is a great simulation that anyone can explore, at http://solarsystem.nasa.gov/eyes/. You will be able to follow the GRAIL spacecraft from launch to orbit and decommissioning (crashing into the moon), and also explore the rest of the solar system and other satellites as if you were in your own craft, zooming in and learning about each stop.

I’ll try to post here at least once a week from now on, and I hope to hone some mean writing skillz and work on a short story or two. Hope you’ll join me in my journey!

 

Lots of Activities to Share

Just a quick update to share some fun stuff that we’ve been doing lately:

Friday, May 28: Day 92. Saying goodbye (with many thanks) to the Transplant Program.

Graduation from transplant program

Graduation from transplant program

This past Wednesday marked a milestone in Dan’s Excellent Kidney Adventure. After several weeks of normal lab results, with a healed incision and feeling more energetic than ever, Dan has graduated from the Kidney Transplant program. He will now be seen by his regular nephrologist, will continue getting his blood chemistry tested every so often, and only return to the transplant center a few times per year for routine biopsies.

We are so grateful for the care that Dan has received these past three months. His transplant team is the best — the nurses, coordinators, pharmacists, nephrologists, surgeons: thank you, thank you, thank you. When we left the transplant center, we walked over to the hospital to say thanks to the nurses who cared for him right before and right after the surgery: in short-stay, in the critical care unit, in the transplant unit. I had a tear or two in my eye as we walked back to the car. It’s been quite a journey and we are so fortunate.

Thanks to all of our family and friends who have supported us with prayers and more. We are especially grateful to the donor. As Dan improves and gains strength, it is almost magical how this gift of a kidney from a total stranger has impacted our lives. To the donor’s family: we greatly appreciate your loved one’s gift. We can’t say ‘thank you’ enough.

A week ago we participated in our first fitness walk, a 5k for the American Heart Association. We’re planning on doing the Kidney Walk in late June. Let us know if you’d like to join us!

2010 Heart Walk

2010 Heart Walk

 

Tuesday, April 27: Day 61, Biopsy: Done. Wound clinic: Done. Going back to work: Whaaa??

I’m so proud of Dan and how well he continues to do! Yesterday he went to his last wound clinic (yay!) — he’s still about two weeks away from everything being completely healed over, but he’s done with the specialized wound care! He also had labs and a transplant clinic, which went so well that his doctor brought up the subject of Going Back To Work! Heavens, the guy has just had a kidney transplant and he’s well enough already to think about returning to work? Wow! It’ll be part-time at first – his first day back is already planned for this Friday…..Friday?? I know! He’ll need to work part-time for a while until he’s built up his strength. But wow, it’s just made me reflect on the entire journey that Dan’s been through since he was first diagnosed with kidney disease. The kidney transplant has been looming in his future for so long that it became a fixture in our lives…now it’s actually behind him — it’s done, complete, no more looming. It’s an interesting enough mind-set-change for me, so I can’t imagine what it must feel like for Dan.

He plans to visit his old dialysis center, at the suggestion of his doctor, to kind of show the staff that people can get better (it’s got to be a challenge working at one of those centers – it was challenging enough for Dan to be a patient there three times a week, but to work there full-time has got to take a lot of patience and stamina). And to also show the patients that a transplant doesn’t have to seem like such an impossibility — if it’s an option for them, they should at least give it some consideration.

Dan will continue to have labs every week, and attend transplant clinics at least two or three more times before he “graduates” from the transplant program. I am going to miss his team of doctors and nurses – they are the best. But they have new transplant patients to deal with now, and Dan will go back to his regular nephrologist and internist for his regular care — although he’ll always need to have routine labs.

Oh, I almost forgot: Yesterday, Dan also had the routine biopsy. He had to be checked into the “Special Procedures Unit” and then was wheeled into radiology for the actual biopsy. The doctor located the kidney via ultrasound, picking a spot well away from the major blood vessels in the kidney, and gave Dan two injections of novacaine: one just under the skin and another that looked right in the kidney itself. He didn’t feel either injection – so far so good. The doctor then took this huge needle with a plastic-looking attachment, and did a test “thwak!”. That was the biopsy needle contraption and it sounded LOUD when the doctor activated it. A little intimidating, but Dan felt okay because the doctor has been saying all along that it would be nothing like the biopsy he had years ago on his native kidneys. Going through all of those big back muscles to get to the native kidney is the tough part, so no wonder it was painful. This one was much different. The doctor took two samples (that’s two LOUD THWAKs!) and then he was done. He covered up the entry point with a small band-aid, and Dan never felt a thing. Nice! As we were coming out of the room, another kidney transplant patient was waiting her turn in the hall. The doctor asked Dan to tell her how it went, and he said “Piece of cake!”. They called with the results today: normal – no signs of rejection. Wonderful!

Wednesday, April 14: Day 48, Another great clinic day!

Dan skated through his two clinic visits today! First, he saw the transplant docs. His labs are good and his creatinine is even a little bit down. It’ll probably stay between 1.7 and 1.9 as his new normal. They didn’t need to adjust any medications and they even said that since his incision site is finally healing up well, he’s turned into a “boring” case. Well, boring is good! Also, Dan should only need to visit the wound clinic once more, so it’ll be good to go back to just a single clinic — although we really love the nurse that Dan’s been seeing there, and we’ll miss seeing her. The semi-dreaded routine biopsy has been scheduled for the 27th. They’ll be able to see at a microscopic level if there are any early signs of rejection. If there are, I believe they’ll address it with a change in medications.

I can’t believe that Dan only has about a month left at the transplant clinic before he “graduates” from their program. Wow. Looking back, it’s been an interesting trip and it seems like such a long road. But looking at Dan today and the amount of energy that he has — it’s totally amazing. I’m so glad he’s feeling so much better!

Best dishes at local restaurants #1

I wanted to share a few local restaurants that we enjoy. The selection of good restaurants in east county is a little bit on the sparse side, so any recommendations in the comments are welcome. We keep hoping for more places to be built nearby: like Sweet Tomatoes, Davidson’s, Chick-Fil-A, and yes, Furr’s. :)

[Updated 1/2/2012 because a lot has changed in the food landscape lately]

These are in no particular order.

Heidi’s in Gresham

We have been going to Heidi’s for years, and the staff there has watched Charlie grow from a tiny baby in his car seat bucket, to the T-ball playing boy of today. Some of my favorite dishes include the spaghetti dinner, the french dip, and the halibut fish and chips. They used to have a chopped steak on the menu that was very good, but we’ve only seen it as an infrequent special lately. Dan likes their salads, scallops and says they have a great burger, too. They do have a kids menu: Charlie likes their mini corndogs and if I’m lucky he’ll order their great green beans as a side instead of fries. I mustn’t forget to mention their great green side salad (Charlie and I fight over the slice of beet they put on top) and an awesome vegetable beef soup.

[Updated: The quality here has declined recently, and some of our favorites are no longer on the menu. Sadly, I can't recommend this place now.]

http://www.heidisofgresham.com/

La Isla Bonita

We are very particular about our Mexican food, since we are used to the way it’s prepared in southern Arizona. In the back of my mind I have a plan to persuade Karichimaka’s in Tucson, Arizona to sell me a license and train me in their kitchen so I can open up my own place, but until that plan gels we usually opt for La Isla Bonita when we’ve got a hankerin’ for Mexican food. They have great spanish rice, tasty tamales, and I also like their enchiladas and chimichangas. The last time we went, the tortilla chips were warm and delicious, and the bean dip was excellent (and I’m not normally a bean dip fan). They have a tortilla machine (like the “el Machino” at Chevy’s) but I’ve never seen it in use — too bad. They have a few choices on the kids menu for “american” food like grilled cheese and a hamburger, and if your kid is really lucky they will get their milk served in a cool cowboy boot glass.

[Updated: This place is still good but still not quite up to par with southern Arizona restaurants we've been to. There's no place like home. :) ]

http://maps.google.com/maps?client=gmail&ie=UTF8&cid=0,0,4560461303040156884&fb=1&hq=La+Isla+Bonita&hnear=portland&gl=us&daddr=302+Northeast+122nd+Avenue,+Portland,+OR+97230-2106&geocode=448992144485992932,45.524704,-122.537028&ei=iQnBS8ueE9H_nAf3iZ2XCg&ved=0CAkQngIwAA&z=16

Trufflehunter

The Trufflehunter has the best dessert tray in town. I had a slice of peach pie there once that was amazing. They also have excellent yeasty rolls that accompany dinner. They have good sandwiches too.

http://www.greshamarea.com/gresham/restaurants/restaurants/trufflehunter.asp

Dea’s In & Out

Dea’s has one of the best burgers in town. They serve a rectangular shaped burger on a fresh, custom-made bun, and if you get fries with that you’ll need to try their fry sauce too. They have the best chili dog in town, and very good onion rings. They are one of the few places that have tater tots on the menu, and they have a great selection of shakes, sundaes and malts.

http://travel.yahoo.com/p-travelguide-21917042R-deas_innout-i

Sub Shop

For excellent subs, one of the best places in town is Sub Shop. Charlie and I like the ham & cheese, #9. We have been known to stop by Sub Shop after work to pick up a picnic dinner on our way to the park in Fairview. Tell Jill that Charlie’s mom sent ya.

[Updated: Sub Shop moved to Sandy, which is far enough away that we're lucky to get there once or twice a year now. Food is still great but we miss chatting with Jill!]

http://portland.citysearch.com/profile/map/33568423/gresham_or/sub_shop.html

Sandwich Depot Deli

As I write this, I’m not sure there is still a retail location that’s open because their website says they are now 100% delivery and catering. At any rate, they have the best egg salad sandwich, the freshest cookies (they give a free cookie to the kids if it’s okay with mom and dad), and very good chili.

[Updated: This place has gone out of business. Replaced by one of those lottery stores that happens to also serve sandwiches, but I'm not tempted to try it out. Boo. ]

http://www.sandwichdepot.com/

Elmer’s

We’ve been eating breakfast at Elmer’s for quite a while. The staff there has also watched Charlie grow up. When we first started taking him there in his little baby car seat bucket, he would cry and cry — he hated it. But he’s grown to love it, and has made friends with several of the hostesses. They have great, fresh breakfasts, excellent coffee, freshly squeezed OJ, and free wifi.

http://www.urbanspoon.com/r/24/281207/restaurant/Portland/Elmers-Gresham

Davidson’s

We really, really like Davidson’s, but we don’t often get over to the Tigard area. They have great food and home-made root beer. The menu is huge but I have a hard time not ordering their Mexican food combo plate (chimichanga and taco) — it’s fantastic. One of their specialties is halibut fish and chips, which I will actually order one of these days. They use this really yummy chipped ice in the beverages — oddly enough there aren’t that many places that used crushed or chipped ice, which is way better than chunky ice in your soda. They have a daily specials menu which always looks tasty. I wish we had one near us!

http://www.davidsonscasualdining.com/

Chang’s

Oh Chang’s, how we love your noodles. I keep wondering if you’ll ever offer whole grain noodles so that I can think your food is even healthier, although with all of those yummy fresh veggies that we can add, it’s already healthier than average. They offer thin wraps and rice, along with a soup to accompany the main dish. My buddy Susan once told me a funny story about using the thin wraps as a napkin – it’s true, they DO look like napkins, but so much more appetizing. I just wish I could make the sauce the same way more than once.

http://www.changsmongoliangrill.com/

More to come later…this is making me hungry. :)